Loving the Unlovable

Written by Annie Borger (An Omi)

The Lord spoke to me this morning about loving the unlovable.

At this moment, I find myself in a situation where my youngest brother and his wife are angry at me. Talking about this with another family member, I had to be aware not to take on this anger myself. I have to say that I love all of my siblings (4) dearly <3 .

It is so easy to lash out in anger, words once said are irreversible and hold an incredible weight.

I do not like to be on the receiving end of mean-spirited anger, as it makes me uncomfortable and sad.

The Lord let me look inward myself, if there is a grain of truth in their anger towards me, and I prayerfully searched my motives and actions for faults.

Then the Lord showed me the hardships in their lives. Seeing the hardships gave me an entirely new perspective and understanding of their personality and what they are going through. I had to remember that they have had to deal with the sting of an injustice, the burden of anxiety, and an overwhelming aching feeling of emptiness. I could not longer hold on to the feeling of being annoyed with them any longer.

Christ has taught me to not only outwardly treat them with kindness and respect, but to also view them through his eyes—with understanding and compassion.

Love because you are loved. Forgive because you have been forgiven. Ephesians ‪4:32‬ says: “Be kind to each another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” When you feel the need to hold a grudge or keep your love from someone, remember the abundance of grace that is available to you through Jesus, despite your great sin. He is the reason we can each love deeply, joyfully, and freely.

If you know you’re about to enter into a meeting with a difficult person, ask to the Holy Spirit for strength, compassion, and patience. Through him, you have the power to represent Christ—even in the most trying of circumstances. Our calling as Christians is a difficult one, but we don’t have to do it alone. Remind yourself that your kindness could show the gospel to someone who desperately needs it.

We are all created in God’s image, so we are worthy to be loved and so is everyone else because of who made them. Because of sin, we are all really unlovable. But Christ changed the rules by offering love, grace, and forgiveness. If God can love us, surely we can love the people in our lives.

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